Thick Hair Rules #44

MY HAIR VS. GOOD HAIR

I had a friend say to me once, “I have that good hair.” She continued talking about her “good hair,” bragging about how easy it was to comb while complaining about how it wouldn't hold a curl.  I added, “I have good hair, it’s very thick and holds a curl.” She looked at me the way you look at someone when you don’t want to be disagreeable, but you disagree. I understand that my course, thick, 4b hair is not considered “good hair,” but I often challenge people when they use that term to describe hair like that of my friend.

I love my hair, I have good hair-esteem. I make sure it’s healthy and well cared for. 

In the past when I relaxed my hair, I got compliments on its health and thickness.  Now that I've been natural for 18 months, I get compliments on the texture of my hair. 

Still, every time I say I have “good hair,” I get that, has she looked in a mirror? look.

Or the, does she understand the definition of good hair? look.

It seems to me we either need to drop the term “good hair” or redefine the term to be more inclusive.

Old Version:

good hair:

 -noun

( Caribbean ) hair showing evidence of some European strain in a person's blood

New Version:

good hair :

-noun

any texture of hair that is groomed and in a healthy state.

Can you think of a better definition?